The day you become a Mom can be the scariest and most amazing feeling in the world weather it be through birth or adoption you are now responsible for another human being. Your responsibility has just quadrupled in a matter of seconds. You are handed a miracle, and no matter what the age, or how they came to you a miracle is exactly what they are.
When you are pregnant you prepare for a newborn. A baby that will cry and poop, and eventually smile and walk. We prepare for all of the long sleepless nights when they are babies, but no one tells you that you will never again sleep well again. As babies they awake because they are hungry, as toddlers they are scared, as teenagers you wait up countless hours waiting for them to arrive home safe and you are still not sleeping.
Their first fight with a friend, their first bad grade, the first time you have to move and they have to say good-bye. No one tells you that it is likely that you will feel the pain more then then will. That you will spend hours not sleeping and shedding tears because you are more worried about them they you ever could have imagined.
The laundry will pile up on occasion and your house will be a disaster. You will clean up more vomit then you ever thought possible. You will become an expert at "kissing the pain away" and wiping snot with your hand because we all want our child to look great, who cares if we are the ones with stains and messy hair as long as they look amazing.
It is OK to say no sometimes and I promise that it will hurt you more then them. Some times you are going to have to be "the bad guy" but when they are grown I promise you that they will thank you for it.
As a Mom you will want to smack the first child that teases your child on the playground. You will want to hurt the first boyfriend that break your daughters heart. You spend countless hours being the best listener and back rubber ever when she just needs to cry.
You favorite gift will no longer be that Coach purse, or $150 running shoes. They will be breakfast in bed, a clean house, and homemade "I love you Mom" gifts. You will long more to brag about how much effort your child made with their homemade gift and look foolishly at those days that you were happy that you longed for expensive ones.
Sometimes you are going to get it wrong and that is OK. Our children love us and even if we screw up once in a while. We all learn from mistakes and no matter how bad it seems at the time, I promise you that they will forget that you didn't know the answer to their homework, or that you had to work during a school play. They will still love you.
As they grow up you will be reminded of how quickly the time passes. They may hate you today, but I promise that they will love you tomorrow. Never give up on them and I promise that they will never give up on you.
As for tomorrow, hug them, kiss them, and no matter how angry they get at you, promise them no matter what they did wrong you will be there for them, and I promise they will do the same for you.
Today you are a Mom. Tomorrow you will still be their Mom. 20 years from now they might be a Mom themselves but you will still be theirs. The worry will never go away, but I promise you neither will the love. So cut yourself a break. No matter how messy the house is, no matter how many mistakes you make, they love you.
Happy Monthers Day.


